Santa Clara Meditation Stress Relief – What are the habits of people who never get stressed?
My advice to you about the habits of people who never get stressed comes from my personal experience. Yesterday, I got back from Jeju Island, the southernmost island in Korea. It was a 6 night, 7 day trip. The journey with my husband and children was very relaxing and sweet. After being stuck inside the house because of Corona since 2020, my children and I got to spend good time running, taking a walk, and enjoying the mountains and the sea.
However, there were people who constantly harassed me during my trip. These were my enemies according to my mind. They are in fact friends from the neighborhood who are close to me. Recently, we were having emotional battles over small things. Please understand that I’m a housewife and I usually don’t need to get stressed about something huge and important, but I often struggle alone with these trivial relationships.
You see, I was trying to enjoy my trip to Jeju Island. While looking at the jade-colored sea and fine sandy beaches, the faces of these people popped into my head. The way my friends looked at me and spoke to me, their facial expressions, and their emotional fights. Until then, I didn’t realize how annoyed I was. I flew 500km on an airplane to take a vacation from daily life. It was pathetic of me to recall the faces of my enemies when I was on a vacation after a whole year. I couldn’t stop thinking about them in my head. ‘Should I buy some presents and ingratiate my friends?’ ‘Maybe my friends are gathering and gossiping about me?’ ’I’m sure they’re having a hard time, and they’re jealous of me since I am on a trip.’, ‘Why the hell am I thinking like this?’
My mind was simmering while my body was in the beautiful nature. To get rid of those thoughts, I exaggerated and excessively tried to be buried in the beauty of the sea, mountains, and forests, but the steaming feeling did not disappear.
I woke up early at dawn two days before my return, laid on my bed and meditated. The method of meditation I was doing is simple, but it makes sense and it’s easy. At a quiet time when everyone was asleep, I reflected back about these recent events. The more I meditated, the more I began to see myself rather than the image of my enemies. And I kept throwing away the stress that filled my mind.
After meditation, I felt much better and I felt a lot of strength in my mind. I was able to put myself in the third party’s position, and understand their perspective. After that, I could just throw away the entire situation whenever I felt stress through the rest of the day. This is the best part about the meditation method I’m doing. Even if I don’t close my eyes and sit cross-legged on the floor, I can relieve stress with meditation as I go through the chores of daily life.
As my mind was cleared to some extent, my true personality and relationships were clearly visible to me. I now understand that I always tried to gain people’s favor. Once I formed a strong relationship with someone, I have kept away from all my friends who leaned on me. I only thought with a thoroughly self-centered mind. So I considered people as my enemies if they criticized me or gave me advice that I didn’t want to hear.
If you also try to do this meditation that I am doing, the moment you see yourself objectively through meditation, you progress rapidly. If you recognize the main reason for the problems in your mind, you can throw them away. I’m so thrilled that I was able to experience this moment. The mind becomes clearer and the consciousness expands. From the time you gain momentum, you can even enjoy stressful situations. I found this out while meditating. There’s no life without stress. But I now know that, If I change my mind and perspective, stress can be a gift. I am forced to improve because I’m under stress. By meditating, you not only reduce stress, but you gain the mental strength to turn it into a happy gift.
